My Path to Death Work

Although I first learned about end-of-life doulas several years ago, my connection to this work began much earlier.

When my mother received hospice care in 2000, I experienced firsthand the challenges that often accompany serious illness, caregiving, and loss.

Years later, while supporting my father-in-law as my mother-in-law entered hospice care, I again witnessed how overwhelming end-of-life systems and decisions can feel for families. Together, we navigated conversations with healthcare providers, hospice services, and funeral professionals—experiences that highlighted how often people are expected to make difficult decisions without clear guidance or support.

Looking back, I recognize that I naturally stepped into a role of helping loved ones gather information, navigate choices, and move through difficult conversations.

Facing a serious illness of my own later deepened my understanding of mortality, uncertainty, and the importance of support. It also gave me the opportunity to process grief I had carried for many years, reinforcing my belief that no one should have to navigate these experiences alone.

My professional background in hospitality, event planning, customer service, marketing, and writing taught me how to communicate clearly, anticipate needs, and support people through meaningful life events. I also volunteered in assisted living and nursing home settings as a teenager, where I learned the value of presence, listening, and human connection.

Together, these experiences brought me back to a calling I had felt for years: to walk alongside individuals and families through some of life's most profound transitions.

Holding space means offering a steady, compassionate presence without judgment or agenda. It means creating room for difficult conversations, fears, hopes, questions, and emotions exactly as they are.

Bearing witness means honoring each person's story, values, relationships, and lived experiences. Rather than trying to fix or change what someone is going through, I believe in meeting people where they are and walking beside them with compassion and respect.

I believe there is no single right way to approach death, dying, caregiving, or grief. My role is not to lead the way, but to walk beside you—offering support, education, and presence as you navigate the path ahead.

• Compassionate, nonjudgmental support

• Education and information without pressure or persuasion

• Respect for your beliefs, values, and choices

• Clear explanations of complex topics and available options

• A steady presence during times of uncertainty

• Support that balances compassion with practical guidance

I am particularly passionate about helping people understand complex topics in ways that feel approachable, clear, and empowering. I believe informed decisions are empowering decisions, and that people deserve the support needed to make choices that align with what matters most to them.